Learning Life’s Lessons
This is a hard lesson from time to time for everyone. This site has some wonderful ideas on how to know when you re learning life lessons and not just telling yourself that you are. I hope you find this site helpful.
By: Connie Chapman
How do you react when you are faced with something challenging in your life? Let’s say something has gone wrong in some area, or an unexpected negative event has come your way, or you are having to spend time with a really difficult person that is making your life hell. How do you react and deal with these experiences?
Often when challenges come our way we try to do our best to resist them or change them. We criticise them or the people involved and we complain endlessly to anyone who will listen. We may ask “why me?” or “what did I do to deserve this?” We may play the victim card and act as though all these terrible things are just happening to us and we are just some poor innocent bystander. We may get angry or depressed or want revenge or just want to give up.
We all react in different ways, but what is common between all of us is that more often than not we label challenges as bad or wrong. There are not many people out there (although I am sure they do exist) who when faced with a challenge think “Yes, awesome, this is fantastic!” We don’t like challenging times because they often make us feel pain, and most of us will do whatever we can to avoid pain. Challenging times often bring with them a whole host of circumstances or people that we do not like and that often make us feel unhappy or just plain yuck.
Choose to see things differently
Well, here is a new thought for you…What if it was not actually the event that is making you feel bad, but rather the way that you are thinking about it. What if the fact that this event is challenging you has absolutely nothing to do with the event itself, but rather with the way that you are perceiving it. What if you could shift the way you saw your challenges, and rather then seeing them as painful inconveniences, you could see them as opportunities to learn and grow.
You see, the purpose of your life is not to solve every problem, fix everything that goes wrong, and to get everything to look exactly as you want it to. Rather, it is to embrace the journey and the process that is unfolding and use each life experience as an opportunity to expand your soul and your self.
Often times we think that when we are faced with challenges, it means that something in our life is going wrong! We may feel like a failure or wonder what we did to deserve this. We want to be able to be always happy and be able to show our friends that everything in our life is going perfectly. But, it does not always work out like that.
Take a new approach
What if we took a new approach to life’s challenges. Rather than resisting them, what if we tried to embrace them. What if rather than trying to fix anything, we just allowed it to be as it is without interference. What if rather than struggling through challenging times we could learn how to just flow with them and be at peace.
Although you may not be able to recognise it at the time, this is exactly why challenges come our way in life. Each time you are faced with a new challenge, you are given a beautiful opportunity to shift your perspective, transform your perceptions, and see it in a whole new light. You can change the way you experience absolutely anything in life by changing the way that you think about it. These hard and testing moments are no different.
Each challenge has a hidden lesson, and if you can find it and embrace it, it will transform the whole way you experience it.
How do we find the lesson?
Think of something in your life that is challenging you. it may be something you are finding hard, something that is causing you pain, someone that is bothering you, or something that you feel unable to deal with. Now try asking yourself these questions…
“What if I created this event? What if I deliberately and consciously chose to create this event in my life for a reason? What if I created it to teach myself something? What if I chose to create it so that I could learn something amazing about myself, learn how to do something differently or grow and expand myself some how? If this was the case, why would I have created it? What lesson could I possibly learn from this that would serve my self and my soul?
Some possible answers could include;
Learning the art of forgiveness
Learning how to unconditionally love yourself or another
Discovering a whole new level of inner strength that you never knew you had
Developing qualities such as determination, perseverance, and commitment
Finding the courage to step outside your comfort zone
Learning how to be vulnerable and authentic and let your guard down with someone
The ability to cultivate inner peace
Learning how to believe in yourself
Deciding it is time to take 100% responsibility for your life
Learning how to perceive yourself in a new way and stretch your inner image of what you are capable of
Realising that you deserve more and learning how to ask for it
Learning how to be generous and see yourself as abundant
Learning how to detach from material possessions and cultivate humility and gratitude
Discovering your soul’s purpose and reconnecting with your truth
The art of letting go of what is no longer serving you
And the list goes on…
So what now..? It is time to turn inward
There is one common factor among all these lessons. They are all inner lessons. Your soul purpose is not about what you do and experience in the outer world, but it about how you grow, change and evolve as a result of what you do and experience in the outer world. Life is about inner change, inner evolution and inner growth. It is about becoming bigger, better, more whole, more authentic, more loving, and expressing more of who you truly are.
So, next time you find yourself feeling unhappy or upset about some particular event in your life. Just stop and take a moment to explore the idea of thinking about it in a new way. Do your best to uncover the hidden purpose in this challenge. Try to uncover what your soul is wanting you to learn. Take a deep breath and just embrace this challenge for what it is – an event that you are assigning a negative meaning to.
Do your best to ask new questions and change your perceptions, and you will be able to grow and expand past this challenge on to bigger and brighter things.
Have a blessed day
Love & Light