How to Make Good Choices
By: Shannon Graham
Have you ever regretted anything? I think we all have. It is hard not to, it seems at times it can be very difficult to know what the right decision is. In life I believe we all move toward things that make us happy, and away from that which could hurt us or make us sad, I also believe that all people no matter who they are; are entitled to as much happiness and success as they want. I wrote this article because I know what kind of capacity people potentially have; I know they are capable of great things. I wrote this article to share with you a few different tools and techniques that have increased my ability to make better choices and regret less. Read this article with an open mind and just try some of the ideas out, I mean what is the worst that could happen? Your life would get better?
Step 1: Say It Right
Often times it can be difficult if not impossible to make what you think at that moment will be the right choice. One of the biggest factors that will hold people back, is that to too often than not we are not completely clear on what type of result or outcome we want from a situation. Think about it, if you don’t really know what kind of result you want it is going to be pretty hard to know what choice is going to be the right one. So what do you do? You get clear, before you make any choice you think about what you want out of the situation. Think about its effects in the long term, and short term. Knowing exactly what you want is very powerful, and if you commit to using this tool I know you will make choices with ease and certainty.
Step 2: Give a little
We have all heard the golden rule; Do onto others as you would have them do onto you. This is probably one of the most important ideas to keep in mind when making good choices. When we are young a lot of us develop this me, me, me, attitude. We want all the toys, and we don’t want to share. Now this mentality may get us a lot of toys, but it defiantly doesn’t help you make friends. In this day and age a large part of personal success is based on working with others to achieve ours goals. If we can help others get what they want, it will be much easier and they will be much more willing to help us get what we want. So when making any choice it is always ideal to think about how can I give in this situation? Who else is involved? How can I help them and my self get what we want? Now you have a formula that is a winner every time. So put forth some effort to being aware of others, and get out there and give!
Step 3: Class Time
Now many of us think once we have finished high school or college the learning is over. Well my friends this could not be further from the truth. The only thing that changes is your class room environment. We are always learning new things, meeting new people, and gathering new information. Although one lesson that eludes many of us is that no matter what happens in any situation we can always learn. So many of us are afraid to make bad choices because we do not want to encounter the pain that will accompany that choice. Yet keep in mind whatever we think about is what we manifest, so unfortunately when we get overly concerned with making the wrong choice we tend it descend further and further into that fear based thinking that in turn leads us to make a decision that we are unhappy with. All because we were not focused on the right things. I think it is pretty safe to say any skill or ability or just about anything else that we have developed in our life we did not do, or gain on the first try. A lot of us all want everything to just work out the first time and avoid failure at all costs. Well there is a term for that my friends and its called luck! The truth is most of the time things are not going to work out on the first attempt, but if we are willing to learn from the outcome then we are more prepared next time to make a better decision. The quality of your choices will be directly related to how much you are willing to learn from the previous ones. When you learn from your choices you end up with much less regret.
Step 4: Fear Is Your Friend
When it comes to making choices there can be a lot of fear involved. A lot of uncertainty can be present when it is time for us to make a decision be it big or small. Sadly there are times when this fear is so strong, so gripping that we are stripped completely of our ability to make any choice at all. That is what I consider true regret because there is nothing to learn from, no action good or bad was taken. But we have to remember fear is there for a reason, but we can choose how we are going to use it. The discomfort that comes with fear more often than not is a signal, a signal telling us that we are on the brink of something new, some personal growth, or even a breakthrough. Fear is there to let you know you are growing, to show you there is still uncharted territory for you to explore. Imagine all the people in history that must have been afraid, who went forth away to discover new worlds, create new sciences, and make the world a better place to live. Now I am not saying that you want to go down in the pages of history, but you can have your own victories and triumphs when you choose to make fear your friend.
As we move through this journey of life we will surely encounter many valleys, although it is my strong belief that if you make a sound effort to make this previous ideas not only some tips and tricks you know, rather to make them a part of who you are. Own them, and they will reap for you great reward and you will find your self atop countless peaks.
Have a Blessed Weekend
Love & Light
The Spirit Way