Why do people judge others

http://www.positivearticles.com/Article/Why-do-people-judge-others/51958

By: M. Farouk Radwan

One of the most popular causes for lack of self confident is becoming one hundred percent dependent on others to feel confident and worthy.

The problem with that approach is that if people judged you in bad way you will feel bad and sometimes worthless.

There is no doubt that in order to become really confident you shouldn’t pay attention to what people say about you especially the ones who don’t know you well.

For such an advice its easier to talk than to apply it because even if you tried not to care about the opinion of others you will still feel bad when they judge you.

The only solution to setting yourself free from the unfair judgment of others is to understand why do people judge others and how their judgment is formed. Once you know how the process works you won’t get affected at all if someone judged you.

The psychology of judging others

You might be thinking that its too selfish not to listen to others or to consider their opinion to be worthy but after you know the following facts you will change your mind.

•              The human mind was designed to fill gaps, we assume the intentions of other people when we have missing information and this leads to incorrect judgment most of the time

•              Our past influence the way we judge people, for example if a woman was betrayed by a man she might assume that any man who acts in a suspicious way is a cheater

•              We relate people’s looks to their personality. If you met an arrogant person in the past then saw someone who looks like him you will assume that they both have the same personality

•              We believe that others are like us, if someone lies all the time he will find it hard to believe others because he will think that everybody are liars

•              Our beliefs affects our judgment, if someone thinks that all rich people are thieves then he will think that you are a thief the moment he sees your expensive car

•              Stereotyping highly affects people’s judgments, anybody who has certain stereotypes defined in his brain might judge someone incorrectly, almost everyone developed some stereo types as the result of being exposed to the media.

In short, most people will judge you incorrectly and if you want to feel confident all the time then you should put no weight to their judgment unless they are really rational people.

Who can judge you accurately?

If a friend spent 10 years with you, won’t he be more likely to judge you correctly? (provided that he doesn’t have any judgment bias)

Of course he will be able to judge you better than someone who has just met you.

Now the question you should ask yourself is, who is the person who spent the most time with you?

Is he your father?

Your best friend?

Your partner?

No!!

Its you!!

You are the only one who have been with you since the beginning. In addition, you are the only one who have full access to your intention, your beliefs, your core values and dreams thus you are the only one who can judge himself.

Learn why do people judge others and why you shouldn’t feel bad when being judged

Have a Blessed Weekend
Love & Light
Karen
The Spirit Way 

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About thespiritwaytoday

Even though I have been psychic my whole life, it's been the last 18 years that I have opened up to using my gifts. I am a psychic advisor, medium channel, and energy reader. It's my mission in life now to help as many people as I can. I know that the universe brought you here for a specific reason that may impact your life in a positive way.

Posted on 04/14/2012, in Relationship W/Others, Relationship W/Self. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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